Helping Pets Grieve
Grief is not only experienced by people — pets can grieve the loss of a companion as well. Whether they have lost another pet in the household or a beloved human family member, animals often experience emotional changes after loss. Because pets thrive on routine, companionship, and connection, the absence of someone important can affect them deeply.
Should You Allow Your Other Pet to Be Present During Euthanasia?
For some families, allowing another household pet to be present during or shortly after euthanasia can help animals better understand the loss of their companion. While every pet responds differently, many veterinarians and pet behavior professionals believe that animals can benefit from the opportunity to see, smell, or quietly observe what has happened.
Why Some Families Choose to Include Other Pets
Pets form strong bonds with one another and are often very aware when a companion is missing. When a pet suddenly disappears from the home without explanation, surviving pets may:
Search for the missing companion
Become anxious or restless
Wait near doors or favorite resting places
Show signs of confusion or distress
Allowing a pet to be present may help reduce uncertainty and support the adjustment process for some animals.
There Is No “Right” or “Wrong” Choice
Every pet, family, and situation is unique. Some pets remain calm and curious, while others may become anxious or overwhelmed. Families should choose the option that feels most peaceful and appropriate for everyone involved.
When It May Be Helpful
Some pets may benefit from being present if they:
Shared a close bond with the pet
Are generally calm in veterinary or home settings
Become anxious when separated from their companion
Tend to search or vocalize when a companion is absent
In-home euthanasia services may sometimes provide a more relaxed environment for both pets and families.
When It May Not Be the Best Option
It may be better to keep another pet separate if they:
Become highly stressed in emotional situations
Are fearful or reactive
Have difficulty remaining calm around medical procedures
Become overwhelmed by unfamiliar environments or people
A stressed or anxious pet may not benefit from being present and could add emotional strain to the experience.
Some Families Choose to Allow Pets to Say Goodbye Afterward
Even if another pet is not present during the euthanasia itself, many families choose to allow surviving pets to quietly see or smell their companion afterward. Some behavior experts believe this can help pets process the change and reduce searching behaviors later.
Watch for Signs of Grief in Surviving Pets
After the loss of a companion, pets may experience temporary changes such as:
Loss of appetite
Increased clinginess
Withdrawal
Restlessness
Changes in sleep or behavior
Maintaining routines, offering reassurance, and providing extra comfort can help surviving pets adjust over time.
Trust What Feels Best for Your Family
There is no perfect decision, and every family dynamic is different. The most important thing is creating a peaceful, loving environment centered on compassion, comfort, and dignity for your pet.
Do Pets Really Grieve?
Many pets form strong emotional bonds with other animals and people. After a loss, pets may notice changes in routines, energy, sounds, and household emotions. While every pet responds differently, many show signs of sadness, confusion, or anxiety during the adjustment period.
Common Signs of Grief in Pets
Grieving pets may experience temporary behavioral or emotional changes such as:
Loss of appetite
Increased sleeping
Restlessness or pacing
Searching for the missing companion
Clinginess or separation anxiety
Withdrawal or decreased interaction
Whining, barking, or vocalizing more than usual
Changes in bathroom habits
Loss of interest in play or favorite activities
Some pets may show only subtle changes, while others may appear deeply affected.
Keep Familiar Routines
Pets often feel safer when routines remain consistent. Try to maintain:
Regular feeding times
Walk schedules
Playtime
Bedtime routines
Quiet companionship
Predictability can help provide comfort and reduce anxiety during periods of change.
Offer Extra Comfort and Attention
Gentle affection, reassurance, and quality time can help grieving pets feel more secure. Sitting quietly together, going on calm walks, brushing them, or simply being present can provide emotional comfort.
At the same time, try not to overwhelm pets with excessive attention if they seem withdrawn or prefer quiet space.
Encourage Eating and Hydration
Some grieving pets may temporarily lose interest in food. Encourage eating with:
Favorite treats approved by your veterinarian
Warmed food to increase aroma
Hand feeding if appropriate
Smaller, more frequent meals
If appetite loss continues for more than a day or two, contact your veterinarian.
Monitor Changes Closely
Grief can sometimes resemble illness. If your pet experiences:
Significant weight loss
Persistent lethargy
Vomiting or diarrhea
Severe anxiety
Ongoing refusal to eat or drink
…it is important to consult your veterinarian to rule out underlying medical concerns.
Allow Time to Adjust
Just like people, pets need time to adapt after loss. Some recover within days or weeks, while others may take longer. Healing is gradual, and patience is important.
Supporting Children and Other Pets Together
Pets are often sensitive to the emotions of the people around them. Calm environments, gentle reassurance, and maintaining routines can help both children and pets cope together after a loss.
Memorializing a Companion
Some families find comfort in honoring the pet or person who passed away through:
Photos or memorial spaces
Planting flowers or trees
Paw print keepsakes
Quiet remembrance rituals
These acts can help families and pets transition through grief with love and remembrance.
Love and Connection Continue
Grieving pets still benefit greatly from the love, comfort, and presence of their families. With patience, compassion, and time, many pets gradually adjust while continuing to feel safe and supported in the home they know and love.